me / I / myself
“Myself” is not a fancier “me.” It is not a politeness upgrade.
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Wrong: Between you and I.
Right: Between you and me.
Drop “you and”: between I is obviously wrong. It’s me.
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Wrong: Send it to Sam and myself.
Right: Send it to Sam and me.
Myself only works if you’re also the subject. You aren’t.
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Wrong: Me and him shipped it.
Right: He and I shipped it.
Drop the other person: me shipped it fails. It’s I.
The test
Remove the other person and see what survives.
Between you and I → between I → wrong, so me. Sam and myself will attend → myself will attend → wrong, so I. It works every time and takes a second.
What “myself” is actually for
Reflexives point back at the subject of the same sentence: I hurt myself. I’ll do it myself. If you aren’t already in the sentence as the one doing the thing, you can’t be myself.
It’s used as a politeness hedge—please contact myself—presumably because it sounds more formal than me. It sounds more formal the way a wrong answer in a nice font does.
Now go take yourself out of that sentence.